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How to Find an Excellent Mate

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Would you like to meet a person of great quality?  Do you dream of finding someone who is simply…incredible?  Would you like to be with someone you admire, respect, and feel a great deal of chemistry with?  If you don’t think it can happen for you, you are among the many who believe:

* “All the good ones are gone.”
* If I did meet someone spectacular, they wouldn’t want me.
* I could never get (and I don’t really deserve) someone sensational.

If you identified with any of the above statements, you belong to a large percentage of the population.  My email Inbox is stuffed with letters from people all over the world who feel this way.  The truth is, however, if you set out on a personal journey to deepen your awareness, grow yourself, and lighten your heart, many of the limiting beliefs that keep you from your ideal mate would vanish.  Anything becomes possible when you consider doing the following:

1. Getting unplugged

We have become so wired, so dependent on electronic gadgets, and so used to distractions we don’t know what it’s like to have a conversation or a thought anymore without fighting the noise … or the temptations… in the background.  Try unhooking from your machines for a few hours and finding a quiet space within.  What do you hear or think about now?  Are you obsessing, complaining, or blaming?  Getting unplugged from bad habits, negativity, and limiting thoughts is just as important as turning off the TV.  Shifting your focus to building your personal energy supplies is a tonic to the spirit.  Flip the switch on gadgetry…to OFF, MUTE the inner voices that encourage you to self-sabotage, and turn toward the QUIET.

2. Letting go

The biggest challenge to self-growth is escaping the debilitating consciousness of being a victim.  When you are in victim mode, you stagger from carrying the weight of anger, resentment, jealousy, revenge, hopelessness, or desperation.  Those destructive emotions come from feeling that you have no choices and limited freedom.  And as long as you feel like someone else is to blame for making you feel miserable you are not ready for a relationship.  The attitude of being “put upon” is a function of looking outside of yourself for the cause of your problems rather than looking within for what life has to teach you.  What can you do about it? 

Approach any stressful situation with these questions:

* When have I been in a similar situation before?
* What do I wish I had done then to handle it?
* What do I need to develop within myself so I don’t repeat this experience?

No one wants to go through hard times…but every hard time is an eye opener.

3. Fads, fame, and celebrity addiction

When we let trendy-ness— or the “coolness factor”—dictate our choices, thoughts, and behavior, we’re not the ones in charge of our lives.  Following the standards set by media icons disfigures our own style, taste, and authentic self.  We are choosing the lowest common denominator to define who we are.  There is a tyranny in allowing well marketed, branded figures to rule what we think of ourselves and how we regard others.  The expectation we place on ourselves to fit in, to acquire goods, and to imitate people (who are most likely imitating other people) is injurious to the spirit.  When we consider the reality of life, which is: there will be ups and downs, struggles, and huge learning curves, we have surrendered to being human.  This type of surrender has no arrogance… and brings stability to the mind and emotions.  You automatically attract people, places, and experiences that feed your soul.  Then, there is no room—or desire—to fill your house with paper dolls.  

4. Constantly learning

Continuously choose a learning path that is perfect for you.  When you are constantly embracing new information and awareness, and deepening your spirituality, you are someone who never gets old or stale.  You just get wiser.  You become a valuable asset to any situation, with much to share and even more ability to appreciate those around you.  Constant learning keeps you interesting and interested.  You also come to understand how little you know.  This is the mark of a seeker…and frames you as the kind of enlightened person that everyone wants to be with.

How do you find a great date…who could become a great mate?  Bring yourself out of the shadows and into the light by doing some of the above.  Be diligent about your self-care and then notice the difference people will find in you.  This is when you become the excellent mate someone excellent is longing to find.

Help With Understanding Men

I can attest that Christian Carter’s email newsletters are informative and helpful. I downloaded his eBook, Catch Him and Keep Him, about a couple of years ago, and was impressed with the advice and insight on men and dating relationships I got from it.

I took the information to heart, and changed my attitude. This is the last in our series featuring "10 Mistakes Women Make With Men." 

Not Getting Help

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.

I know, you don’t like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.

Hey, I’ve been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me.

Understanding Men

Over the last few years it’s been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.

It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be successful with men and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.

I’ve read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.

I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that’s going on in an interaction.

Become Successful with Men

Best of all, I’ve been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.

It’s been a very rewarding experience, and it’s how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.

I’ve helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling… the one you get when you’re lonely, you’ve been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says "he’s not ready."

You don’t have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you’ll end up alone.

FREE Email Newsletter…

But the really great news is… after several years, helping woman after woman, I now publish a free email newsletter that teaches any woman how to DRAMATICALLY increase her success with men and dating.

I’d like to invite you to sign up.

It’s free, there’s no obligation, I’ll never share you’re email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself with no hassles. (And no, I’ll never pull any of those tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk mail when you try to remove yourself.)

Of course, it even get’s better than that…

In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have an amazing downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES.

It’s JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming your fears, meeting men, great ideas around first dates, cheat-proofing your relationships, and how to take things to a closer emotional and physical level smoothly and easily.

Oh, I Almost Forgot…

In this day and age of  "instant gratification," I realize this might just sound like another late-night infomercial promising to make you wealthy and retired by next week.

Well, that’s not the case.

I’ve spent a lot of time, effort, and energy studying, observing and understanding this area of life.

I wanted to design and create a book that ANY woman could easily understand.

Something you could start using IMMEDIATELY to meet, attract, date, and get close with a great guy.

I want to help you create an amazing relationship with the right man… without having to deal with all the wrong men, be manipulated or experience the pain and loss I’ve helped other women avoid.

I now believe that ANY woman can be more successful with men and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from women. They’ve taken what they’ve learned and found great guys and are growing meaningful relationships.

I know, I know… a book that can teach a regular girl how to be more successful in the dating world?

No way.

Well believe me, this will DRAMATICALLY increase your success, comfort and happiness when it comes to men, dating and relationships… I absolutely guarantee it 100%.

If you’d like to take your success with men and dating to the next level, and find how to create the foundation for the relationship that you’ve always wanted, then go here

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How to Turn Your Best Friend into a Boyfriend

Help! I Love My Best Friend!

There is no easy way of going from “friend” to “boyfriend.” So what do you do if you fall for someone who’s just your friend?

It is very common for women to develop feelings for their male friends. Especially if their friend is someone that they hang out with all the time and can constantly make them laugh. Here are some key tips from Loveawake relationship coach to capturing your male friend’s heart. Who knows? Maybe he already feels the same way for you too. There will also be some clues to see if he likes you back.

You want to accomplish two things here: you don’t want to scare the guy off, and you don’t want to make a fool of yourself.

If you’re positive you’re in love with your friend (you go around telling yourself, “I love my best friend, I love my best friend!), and you’re wondering if it’s worth it to pursue, even though you might lose the friendship, the answer is yes. The chance for true love is definitely worth it. If you lose your friend, that is a sad thing. But to never even try is sadder.

Tips to Turning Your Best Friend Into a Boyfriend

• Texting is always an intimate communication signal. By using texts, the guy is not sure how you are expressing your emotions on the other side of the line. Flirt a little bit and see what his response is.

• Call him words like “Hon” or “Sweetie” when talking to him. It will give him a sure hint. But not enough to scare him.

• Do not constantly call him pet names (this can get annoying to a guy pretty quickly) but every once in a while, use them.

• Hugs are always good! You can tell if a guy has feelings for you by the way he hugs you.

• The next time you hug him, try this: wrap your hands around his neck, and press your body very tightly against his for about 5 long seconds, and then let go. Did he hug you back tightly? You’re in. Did he tense up and back away? He’s either not ready or he’s spooked.

• The very last-ditch effort you can make is to be honest and tell him how you really feel. The worst that is going to happen is that he’s going to tell you he doesn’t feel the same way about you. Make sure you are ready to accept the consequences before you tell him you’re in love with him. If you don’t think you can look him in the face ever again, re-evaluate whether or not you want to tell him. Boys come and go, but friendship is designed to last a long time. You never want to live your life with regret, though. If he’s any kind of guy, he’ll let you down gently and it won’t hurt your friendship. It might be something that you two will laugh about over beers in a few months. Keep it lighthearted and you stand a better chance at not ruining the friendship.
Good luck!

How do you get men to notice you?

The first thing that most men will notice about you is your body. Yes, this is unfortunate, but that’s just the way men are built. But this should make you happy: the second thing that will get men to notice you is your smile.

If you’re girl who’s going out clubbing, or if you’re trying to catch the eye of that one special guy, try the following dating tips to get men to notice you:

It’s been said a million times: A woman wearing a smile looks a million times better than the one wearing a frown.

Make eye contact. Nothing says “I’m into you” like a short, lingering pause.

Then again, nothing says “I want you” like a long, intense stare.

Toss your hair over your shoulder, but don’t overdo it.

If you’re close to your guy, touch him ever so gently on the shoulder, arm, or waist. Don’t be too obvious about it. A great way to do this is to say, “Excuse me,” at the same time.


Get Your Ex Back? Are You Nuts?

There are a lot of books out there to help women get their ex-boyfriends back. They offer advice, tips and all-out strategies on how to win back his love. Most of the advice in these books is given by people who know how to get exes back successfully and want to share their advice with heartbroken women.

Don’t do it. Don’t try to “win back his love.”

In every breakup, one of three things has happened. Either you have dumped him, he has dumped you, are the two of you came to a mutal agreement to end the relationship. Whatever the reason, now you’ve somehow got it into your head that you want him back. Here are some reasons why you need to forget about that.

If He Dumped You and You Want Him Back

Are you really going to be that girl who’s so desperate she’s going to beg for love? Nobody is worth that. If the man you love broke up with you, smashed your heart into tiny bloody pieces and you feel you can’t live without him, you’ve got to trust women who have been there before and know that you can live without him.

He dumped you for a reason. It doesn’t matter why. He met someone new, or you two were fighting too much, or his parents didn’t approve of the relationship.

Again, it simply does not matter why he broke up with you. The fact is, he did, and there’s not a single reason in the world why you should stoop to trying to get someone back who doesn’t want to be with you.

Even if he’s “confused” or “having issues,” it’s no excuse for breaking up with you. When someone breaks up with you, it means this: he doesn’t want to be with you anymore.

<b>Why do you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?</b> You can’t make someone love you. People try all the time to force people to feel a certain way and they fail every single time. You can’t make someone love you. It doesn’t work that way.

Even if you do succeed in getting him back, you’ll forever resent him what it took you to do that. Getting an ex back is not like returning a dress. It takes away a piece of your dignity and your self-respect. And those are two things you should never sacrifice, especially not for some guy.

If You Dumped Him and You Want Him Back

Maybe you think you made a mistake. Maybe he found a new girlfriend and you’re jealous. Or maybe you think he’s changed. Here’s the thing: you broke up with him for a reason. Our first, gut instinct is usually the right one. Something inside of you knew that he wasn’t the right one, and that’s why you broke up with him. Don’t second-guess yourself. Trust yourself enough to know that you made the right decision.

The only real exception to this rule is if it’s been years. And even then, here’s a hint: people don’t really change. Their circumstances might change (people move, get new jobs, etc.) but the core of who a person is never changes.

So think about that before you make a huge mistake by trying to get back together with someone you dumped. You’ve been there, you’ve done that, and now it’s time to move on to someone new. When you’re thinking of getting back a guy you dumped, you might only be remembering the good times. Don’t forget about all the awful times that led you to break up with him in the first place.

Also (and this is important): It’s very unlikely that you’ll be able to fully respect a man who took you back after you dumped him. The balance of power is out of whack. And it’s hard to truly love someone you don’t completely respect.

If the Breakup Was Mutual and You Want Him Back

If you and your ex ended things mutually, then there must have been a damn good reason for the breakup. If you two ended things civilly, why would you want to ruin a respectful decision made by two competent adults?

And if you didn’t end things civilly, if it was a horrific breakup that happened while you were both in the heat of the moment, take a step back and think about why you’d want to get back together with him. In a mutual breakup, that means you broke up with him and he broke up with you. You both told each other you didn’t want to be with the other.

Sometimes, things just aren’t meant to be.

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